As a mother of 2 young children I often took short trips, “the guilt trips”.
I have realized as parents we always strive to be “perfect”. And it is this trait which sends us on a guilt trip every once in a while. I was being too hard on myself as a mother always correcting myself, always looking for ways to be “the perfect mother”. Very ambitious, very very ambitious indeed. No offense meant to the “perfect parents”. I am not. I am only human.
We don’t live in a perfect world. We don’t exactly have a “perfect job”, “perfect marriage”, “Perfect friends”, “perfect situations” well let’s face it- We don’t have a perfect life. I believe that it is this imperfectness is what makes life all the more interesting. A little compromise here, a little anger there, a little shouting here, a little smiling there, lots of love all the way…a little of everything gives life something new to look forward to everyday. The point I am trying to make is…its ok to falter once in a while. Take a good look at yourself in the mirror and laugh it off your system. Everyone makes mistakes. You are allowed to make mistakes, as long as it doesn’t affect your child on a negative tangent.
Kids are never the same on any 2 given days. Today if noodles are their favorite food then tomorrow its pizza. If today “Vaibhav” is their best friend, then tomorrow its “saurav”. If today they love “daddy” more than “mummy” then tomorrow it’s the other way round (Just wait for your turn, it will definitely come!). Their needs and wants will last a long time and you sure have a life time to fulfill it. If you can’t buy them their wants today don’t take a guilt trip. You have a tomorrow. Smile. If you went overboard trying to discipline your child, don’t take the guilt trip. Tomorrow they will know why you did what you did. You have the best interest of your child in mind and sooner or later they will know it. Don’t waste your today with your children and your spouse taking a de-tour on a “guilt-trip”.
You are the best parent your child can get. Know it, learn it, live it.
Sunday, July 11th, 2010, 1:20 pm | 
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